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148 “Does couples therapy actually work?”

with Matt Wade

Have you ever wondered if therapy could be right for you and your partner? When is the right time? Should we do individual or couples work? Why do we find ourselves in the same cycles over and over?  
Today, we’re bringing in an expert to help us get to the bottom of your questions!  Mickenzie and Lindsey sit down with Onsite Clinician and Emotionally Focused Couple’s Therapist, Matt Wade. Taking a deep dive into how our attachment can impact our partnership, Matt shares his personal story and how it informed a major career pivot to work with couples. Together, we’ll explore how couples’ work can repair and strengthen your relationship and help you overcome the patterns of conflict and hurt that keep you stuck in your partnership! 

Meet this episode’s experts

Matt Wade is a co-founder of Unstuck Therapy and works primarily with couples, either through weekly sessions or multi-day workshops.

Matt is also a recent addition to the Onsite Clinical team as a Guide Lecturer & Intensive Specialist.

Matt’s passion is helping clients recover and thrive in distressed or in-crisis relationships, wounded attachment, and religious trauma through several evidence-based treatments. 

Matt is trained in the gold standard for couples therapy: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). He is also trained in Experiential Therapy Models such as Psychodrama and Gestalt Therapy.

Matt is also trained in Brainspotting. Matt has been married for 20 years to Amber and they have two kids, Carson and Nellie. 

You can follow Matt on Instagram @matt_wade.

Mentioned in this episode

In this episode:  

5:19 – Who is Matt Wade?  

8:17 – How the pain in Matt’s story and marriage led him to Onsite  

17:35 – How Matt pays forward the healing in his marriage for other couples  

18:58 – What is Emotionally Focused Therapy?  

20:46 – When to do couple’s therapy and when to do individual therapy  

26:12 – How attachment plays out in couples  

31:07 – What are the steps to creating a solid foundation in your relationships?  

35:53 – The role of disclosure in couples’ work  

39:38 – How to assess if it’s time to leave a relationship  

43:15 – Matt’s practice for staying centered in his partnership  

Onsite Experiences mentioned in this episode:

Onsite’s Living Centered Program
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Whether you’re feeling stuck or broken, overwhelmed or ready to dig deeper, we can guide you to the more you’re seeking.

Onsite Wellness House

At Onsite Wellness House, our Intensive Outpatient Program helps you build practices and rhythms that lead to long-term success, not just short-term relief. By providing safe, accessible, and engaging weekly group programming coupled with best-in-class individual trauma counseling, Onsite Wellness House provides a bespoke healing experience to help you find sustained wholeness. 

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