Navigating Grief
Honoring and Healing After Losing a Loved One to Suicide
Losing a loved one to suicide is an overwhelming experience that brings a unique kind of grief.
As we observe Suicide Prevention Month, it’s essential to address the needs of those of us who are mourning and offer practical ways to honor our loved ones, support ourselves, and find empowerment in our healing journey.
1. Honor Your Loved One
Your loved one was more than the manner of their passing. They lived a life filled with love, experiences, passions, and connections. As you navigate the wake of grief, we encourage you to reflect on how you can honor their memory in your daily life. Perhaps you can embody their values—compassion, kindness, creativity—in your own actions. You might find solace in cooking their favorite meal, journaling about memories you shared with them, or volunteering for causes they cared about.
Keep their memory alive by sharing stories and speaking their name. The Egyptian proverb, “Everybody dies twice—once when their body leaves and again when people stop speaking their name,” reminds us of the importance of keeping our loved one’s spirits alive in our thoughts and conversations.
2. Support Yourself
Grief is complex, especially when it comes to losing someone to suicide. It’s normal to feel a wide range of emotions, from numbness to anger to profound sadness. Allow yourself to experience these feelings without judgment, and seek support when needed. Whether through loved ones, professional counselors, or support groups, don’t hesitate to reach out for help.
Be mindful of triggers like certain places, dates, or situations that may intensify your grief. Prioritize your mental and physical health during this time. Remember, grief from suicide is often complicated by feelings of guilt or shame, but these emotions don’t lessen the validity of your grief.
Instead of exhausting yourself by searching for the “why,” try to separate responsibility from blame. Understand that while there are steps to prevent future tragedies, blaming yourself or others for what has happened won’t aid your healing.
3. Find Empowerment In Your Healing Journey
Grief holds a lot of energy, and how you channel it can significantly impact your healing. Engage in activities that feel nurturing—join a support group, speak with a therapist, or explore creative outlets like writing or art.
Be mindful of your social media use, as certain content can exacerbate feelings of isolation or distress. Instead, connect with online communities that offer support and understanding.
Healing from the loss of a loved one to suicide is a deeply personal journey.
By honoring their memory, caring for your well-being, and finding empowering ways to process your grief, you can begin to navigate this difficult path with compassion and strength.
You’re not alone on this journey.
There are resources and people ready to support you every step of the way. If you or someone you know is struggling, reach out—help is available, and you don’t have to face this alone. Visit Onsite’s Crisis Resources page for more information on finding the support you deserve.
