Why You Lose Interest (The Moment They Start Liking You Back)
An Onsite Session on Avoidant Attachment and Relationships with Onsite’s Clinical Director, Ryan Snodgrass
What This Session Explores
- Why attraction can fade when someone becomes available
- The core fears beneath avoidant attachment patterns
- How childhood emotional experiences shape adult independence
- Why idealizing unavailable partners feels safer
- How to build connection without losing yourself
In this Onsite Session, Ryan Snodgrass explores avoidant attachment and the protective strategies that form when connection once felt inconsistent, overwhelming, or unavailable. Many people with avoidant patterns deeply value independence and self-sufficiency, often because they had to learn early on that their needs might not be reliably met. As adults, this can show up as emotional shutdown, fear of engulfment, focusing on a partner’s flaws, or withdrawing when vulnerability increases.
Ryan explains that this pattern is not about a lack of desire for love. It is about protection. When closeness once felt unsafe, the nervous system can interpret emotional availability as a threat. The session walks through reflection exercises to help viewers identify their relational patterns and introduces a simple but powerful practice: staying 10% longer in moments that previously triggered withdrawal. The goal is not to force connection, but to create choice instead of reaction.
Avoidant attachment is not a flaw. It is an adaptation. And with awareness, that adaptation can evolve into a secure, grounded connection.
Ryan Snodgrass is the Clinical Director at Onsite and works extensively with individuals navigating attachment wounds, relational anxiety, and emotional regulation. Her approach integrates nervous system awareness, experiential therapy, and practical tools that help individuals build secure, meaningful connections without sacrificing their sense of self.
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